Many of you will have heard in the media recently that Nigella Lawson has obtained an uncontested or “quickie” divorce following the heavily publicised encounter with her husband Charles Saatchi. The images of the event saw the international advertising mogul and art collector grab Lawson by the throat and tweak her nose. Following his actions Saatchi accepted a police caution for his threatening behaviour.
While no official comment has been made about the nature of any financial settlement involved, it has been suggested that the pair honoured the terms of a pre-nuptial agreement that prevents either party from being able to claim against the other financially. This agreement, whilst not strictly binding, was presumably put in place to protect the much greater assets of her former husband. The reason given for Lawson accepting these terms, when she may have been able to gain a greater settlement, was that she wished for herself and her children to be spared the additional pain and trauma associated with contested proceedings, with the accompanying publicity. She and her children already had enough financial provision to cater for their needs.
In our experience, whatever the speed of the proceedings, there is no such thing as an easy divorce, most people who have invested time, energy and hope into a marriage are devastated when the relationship ends. The law provides of course for basic financial needs to be met for both parties and any children affected but the sooner that a relationship, that has not worked for whatever reason, is brought to an end and with the minimum of acrimony the better it is for all parties concerned.
No one is in any position to judge another when it comes to relationships, but there are certainly times when credit should be given to a mother who puts the interests and emotional needs of her children before the green-eyed monster.