Following the breakdown of a relationship, many newly single mothers find themselves facing emotions and choices they have not encountered before.
Juggling financial pressures, childcare worries and running a home can seem a daunting task. It takes time to find the right balance and to help you achieve this, we have put together some information and advice we hope you will find useful.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for support. Can you call on grandparents, extended family or friends for advice, childcare or just a listening ear?
- Family break ups can often involve debt worries. Go along to your local Citizen’s Advice Bureau for ways to deal with any debts you may have.
- Draw up a list of your income and outgoings and set yourself a household budget. Put your bills on direct debits to cut down on administration.
- Make sure you are receiving any financial benefits you may now be entitled to.
- Find out your rights for flexible working. Speak to your employer about family friendly hours to find the right work/life balance.
- Draw up a rota for housework. Can you afford any domestic help? If not encourage older children to help and organise your time effectively.
- Spend time on your own health and well-being. See your GP with any health concerns, try to eat healthily and exercise as often as you can.
- Seek out other lone parents. If you have young children look for local toddler groups and activities. The Internet is a good source of contact with other single parents and for child friendly activities in your area.
Many fathers find that in time they can meet the challenge of bringing up children alone. It may feel like a constant struggle and at times seem overwhelming, but you can forge a stronger relationship with your children and find abilities you never knew you had. With help, advice and support you can get through the difficult times and look forward to a new future together.