The first question I ask a new client is whether they consider their marriage to have irretrievably broken down. It is helpful to know whether a couple has drifted apart or if a dramatic event has brought things to a head. If it seems that the marriage is fixable, I will gently guide a client towards considering marriage guidance or counselling.
However, when a marriage has irretrievably broken down there is nothing to be gained by staying in an unhappy situation. If the client is sure they want to proceed, the first step is to communicate with their spouse in a non-confrontational way to try to include them positively in the process.
As a member of ‘Resolution’, the organisation that advocates constructive approaches to family law matters, I am committed to non-adversarial communication and problem solving methods, including matters involving children of finances; after all, divorce is considered to be one of the three most stressful life events. This approach is the best way to enable a client to move on with their new life without the baggage of a difficult, hostile divorce.
There will always be those divorces that are antagonistic, particularly where domestic abuse is involved, but wherever possible, my role is to help my client to move on with the minimum of difficulty and conflict towards a calmer situation.
I am available to discuss divorce or any related issues at the Neetside Centre in Bude every Friday. Please telephone The Family Law Company on 01392 421777 for a free initial appointment.